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MilSpouse (First) Friday Fill-In #68

MilSpouse Friday Fill-In is here again! From now on every first Friday of month. Thanks to always awesome Wife of A Sailor  for keeping up this fun way to get to know other military spouses around the world! The idea is simple – Wife of A Sailor posts the new questions prior the first Friday, you get your blog entry together, and link up at Friday Fill-In Site .

1. What is your favorite winter memory? Hmm, my favorite winter memory…. I grew up in Finland, in the home of real winters, and there are quite a few awesome memories related to that time of the year. Various ski trips and cross-country ski competitions are definitely among my favorites. Last winter I (finally) picked up snowboarding, after being a downhill skier for more than two decades – that experience will definitely stay in my memories forever…

2. What is your current favorite TV show? I don’t really watch tv a whole lot, nor religiously follow any shows. Are News considered as TV show? If so, I am a real news addict. However, I do like 24 but only when I can watch the whole season on DVDs. There is no way I could ever justify parking myself in front of the TV frequently at the certain time of the week…

3. What was your favorite thing that happened in January? Breaking some PR’s in Crossfit such as deadlifting 250lbs. Getting a new research project started with a bunch of hamsters. And having a few options for the PhD studies. Actually lots of great things happened in January.

4. What is the best sound in the world to you? I really do love the sound of ocean, just before the storm. And I enjoy a good ol’ thunderstorms. There is something relaxing in them. Weird, huh?!

5. What is the biggest lesson you have learned as a MilSpouse (or significant other)? Always be prepared with Plan B (and C). Things change, life goes on.

My Career. Your Career.

A while ago I came across to some online discussion about spouses wearing their husband/wife’s military rank, and even using it as a tool against other, (lower-ranking) service member’s spouses, or even worse  getting their spouses’ chain of command involved in their personal problems. I was shaking my head. And I was disgusted.

Military is a choice of career. Being a soldier is an occupation. Military is a professional environment. Although not in a traditional 9-5 meaning, it still is a workplace. While military requires more from the whole family than some other jobs, the responsibility of the work itself is on the service member’s shoulders. However, still I read and hear about spouses who either hide behind the other half’s rank, or go after the chain of command for various reasons: when they have been mistreated by someone, when the spouse is having a hard time in the military with his/her peers, ….. there are spouses meeting with commanders and trying to beg another chance for a spouse who has by his/her own behavior ruined his/her military career … the list is never-ending.

My blunt, honest questions is how some people can do it? Or why they do it?

It would never, ever come to my mind to hide behind my husband’s rank. It is his career. I have my career. Furthermore, I would never accept him being involved in my professional life beyond normal collegial socialization, nor I want to be involved in his professional career – beyond the social and formal events. If he had a problem with his job or colleagues, I would tell him to go and figure it out himself. Honestly, I can’t come up with any, single reason why I would need to escalate something to his chain of command.

Maybe I am missing something but I don’t understand why some military spouses are so eager to get into other person’s job environment. My career in the corporate world started already in 1998, over a decade ago, and  I have never seen spouses behaving like this – nor as a manager I would have not tolerated it.

Drama queens? Bored? What is it? If there is an explanation or theory on this, I would love to hear it.

Cheers to 2011! Welcome 2012!

Less than seven hours left of year 2011 here in Alaska. When looking back this year, I can only wonder how fast the time can fly by. 2011 has been a wonderful year with full of extraordinary events. We lived an adventurous life – skied, snowboarded, went halibut fishing… We traveled, had fun, were busier than beavers with our careers, tied the knot, … what else could one ask for one year?

Back in March we got engaged – Jason popped the question under the starry Hawaiian skies. Maui will always have a special meaning in my heart. Fast-forwarding to July , we said I Do’s  at Fort Richardson chapel in Alaska.

Besides traveling to Maui in March, we were honeymooning on O’ahu in September, checked out San Francisco in May , and San Diego in September . And then in Chicago area in December . And in the middle of all this, I have been jet setting all over Alaska from Barrow to southeastern tips of this giant state – spending time on the plane nearly every week.

Work-wise … well, I don’t even know how we have been managed to juggle with all the tasks we both have. Maybe the love for our duties is what keeps us going. Jason has been busy with his new unit – being in charge of the troops and running the daily stuff make his days constantly longer, and sometimes weekends shorter. Despite all the travels, I couldn’t be happier with my daily job. I am working with the best people people ever who are motivating and supporting – always thriving the excellence. One of my life-long dreams came true just a couple of months ago when KominiakPhoto opened an online Fine Art Gallery . The gallery is one of the 2012 Projects  that I am hoping to concentrate more.

It has been such a busy but awesome, wonderful 2011. The bar is set very high for 2012, and I can’t wait to see what the new adventures will be.

“We will open the book. Its pages are blank. We are going to put words on them ourselves. The book is called Opportunity and its first chapter is New Year’s Day” –Edith Lovejoy Pierce

 

So the opportunities …. I do have some goals and plans for the New Year – stop by tomorrow, January 1, to read about Top 5 goals for 2012!

Meanwhile, here is a review of 2011 New Year’s Resolutions, last years goals worked out pretty good.

Resolution 1:  Cherish every day. I think I have done pretty good job at that.

Resolution 2:  Dedicate more time for the photography. Fine Art gallery is up and running – can check this one off too!

Resolution 3:  Keep up with the school stuff, maintaining the existing GPA . Straight A’s the whole year of 2011!

Resolution 4:  Run a full marathon in 2011. While I have been running 20+ miles runs, I didn’t do any long-distance running races in 2011. Mainly because Alaska is not the best location for running, and a couple of marathons I had on my mind were overlapping with some of our travels. So mileage done, races not. 2011 is a new year!

Resolution 5:  Add a short yoga practice to be a part of my daily workouts. Got it covered – I am doing yoga practices nearly every day, and my flexibility has gotten so much better.

 

Secret Santa

It’s Secret Santa season for sure! Like last year, I participated in Secret Santa gift swap again this year. Thank you so much for organizing this lovely holiday tradition, Wife of A Sailor !

My Secret Santa package arrived already at the end of last week, and I had a great intention not to open it until tonight, right before leaving for Chicago. And I was able to control myself but it was my beloved husband who was dying from the curiosity . He kept asking and asking if I am going to open the box, and when I am going to open it. So eventually a couple of days ago I gave up, and actually let him to open it – such a big kid. Next year he should sign up for the Secret Santa too!

Anyways, I couldn’t believe what I saw. First of all, the most beautiful packaging – how thoughtful to gift wrap inside the box. So clever! I am gonna steal this idea for my next year’s Christmas mailing purposes. And then out comes a purple, overflowing stocking. A book and selection of Starbucks teas! Yummmm! I have to admit, I already tasted a couple of tea flavors. Winter Dream Tea together with gingerbread is such a delicacy! And then the book. I will be glued to it on our flight from Alaska to Chicago. No Turning Back  by Ryan Anderson, a soldier awarded with Purple Heart who lives the life and is a true American. I can’t wait to read this book. What a great choice by Shana , my Secret Santa – you found a book that I haven’t read, and the one that I can’t wait to read.

Thank you Shana at Tiara’s & ACU’s !